Date a girl who reads

Girl reading a book
Girl reading a book
" You should date a girl who reads.

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books 
instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she 
has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants 
to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will 
always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly 
looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly 
cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird 
chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? 
That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, 
especially when they are yellow and worn. She’s the girl reading 
while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take 
a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top 
because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of 
the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as 
most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if 
she likes the book. 

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got 
through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she 
says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that 
to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would 
like to be Alice. It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her 
books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give 
her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, 
Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that 
words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between 
books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life 
a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if 
she does. She has to give it a shot somehow. Lie to her. If she 
understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind 
words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It 
will not be the end of the world. Fail her. Because a girl who 
reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because 
girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but 
that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and 
again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain 
or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read 
understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the 
Twilight series. If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When 
you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, 
make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple 
of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if 
the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they 
always are.You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock 
concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst 
and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of 
your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. 
She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, 
maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age 
together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you 
shake the snow off your boots.Date a girl who reads because you 
deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful 
life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours 
and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you 
want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads. 
Or better yet, date a girl who writes. "

- Rosemarie Urquico

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